Stop Writing Open Letters

Nobody cares. 

Social media is littered with bitter, angry people with passive aggressive voice looking for an applause and/or revenge against someone who wronged & spited them. By the time I got up this morning up until I started writing this, I came across 7 different "open letters" throughout the social media,shared relentlessly by people who "relate", directed at anyone and anything: ex boyfriends and girlfriends, ex best friends, teachers, unruly kids, siblings, parent, that one waiter who called you fat 3 years ago, lovers past and present. Not all are bitter. Some are Notebook style cheesefest letters full of fluffy clouds, unicorn piss and your perfect human existence without a single flaw. Husbands writing love letters to their wives regarding birth of their child blah blah because NO WOMAN beside your wife has ever given birth and gone through some serious stuff. You are not a special snowflake for enduring hardship and this endless battle called life. Billion people struggle on daily basis and you want an applause? Sit down. Not sure what the intent is behind these letters. Redemption? Revenge? An answer to something? Sympathy and empathy from strangers on the Internet? I guess it is difficult to say: "I'm feeling kind of smug and self-righteous. Take my side," isn't it? But it what it boils down to. One singular experience built to shine light only on you, ignoring the other person or thing that made you pen the letter. Somehow and in some way, all these open letters end up begging for "praise me and my choices and crucify the other person/thing so I can feel better about myself."

Its dishonest and lazy. If you have a problem with someone...problem so grand that it made you pen a public letter, resolve it with that person, not the entire world. If you love someone so much, tell them. The concept of Open Letter is not terrible in theory, but it has been diluted by petty, self-righteousness and quest for glory and acceptance, no matter how empty, unimportant the topic is. 

"Help! My roommate is an asshole." GASP. I can't wait to dig into how perfect you are and how shitty your roommate is. 

"It happened to me: my husband likes MILF porn." Sounds like a thrilling read.

I honestly wish these were fake headlines.

Lets be real for a moment, 9 out of 10 times, your open letter is not really starting a dialogue or discussion. Your open letter reflects on YOUR experience and ignores ALL relations to society as a whole. You made up your mind and now you want me to take your side by showering you with kudos and "yay go you!" Some opinions and thoughts are just not worth sharing. The fact that you think the world will stop to read about your feelings about what your best friend did to you in high school, speaks volumes of your arrogance. It would have been easier and healthier if you confronted your best friend instead of penning a whiny letter. If  your "open letter" does not contribute to some form of change or influence across broad political and social spectrum, its just another egotistical piece begging for accolades and once again....nobody cares.

and I just realized I wrote an open letter to people that write open letters. Yikes.

"Make America HATE again"

I was born in a country destroyed by fear and nationalism. I had to flee and relocate my life one too many times. Watching Donald Trump happen….is why movies like Purge – The Election Year exist. Trump is what happens when racism, fear and fascism take root.

Trump did exactly what Trump would do in his RNC speech, in all its great fascist glory.... paint America as the dystopian wasteland destroyed by the "outsiders".... (funny, Native Americans probably thought the same), inspire paranoid fear mongering, division among the people, trying to literally melt the melting pot...then like the Dark “Hero” ...he's the second coming to "fix" America…bored billionaire without any political experience appealed to the KKK of this country and the racists went wild...Donny is here to protect you from Mexicans, blacks and browns. From gays and women he does not deem “hot” like his daughter Ivanka. He is the true authoritarian leader. But bad news for you Donny...Hitler did it better in Germany. Just sayin'. I have never in my life seen anyone hate America as much as this orange motherfucker. I read The Hunger Games few years ago and for a young adult novel, it was a genuinely scary portrayal of society when the FEW seize the power, separate people and literally take everything from them: dignity, rights and opportunity. He would probably put the Mexicans, those rapists and murderers, in District 13. Or whichever District sows his shitty suits. Gays in District 8 since you know, if anyone is going to “destroy marriage”, its Trump and the list of his progressively younger wives. Women would be in District 5…grooming his next wife. 

I can go on and on with different analogies and colorful language, it’s absolutely IRRELEVANT to the big picture here. This narcissistic, inexperienced, on a power trip piece of human shit covered cheeto wants to be Leader of the Free world without naming SINGLE policy or any experience in foreign matter. “Cut taxes! Terrorist! 9/11!” …it’s like a bad episode of Family Guy. People are literally only voting for him because he so masterfully incited hatred and violence without saying it directly. Then he picks a Vice who will make you ladies have funerals for your miscarried fetuses and who wants to monitor your genitals in local Targets. THIS IS WHAT YOU PICKED, YOU DUMB GOP MOTHERFUCKERS. I hope to God your archaic, sum of all fears party burns to the ground and ashes get spread all over so that no place exists for you to mourn it and remember it. If you are not angry, you are not paying attention.
My personal message to everyone: build bridges – not walls.